So I posted that video the one which goes:
“ohhhh is your daughter simply so shy?”
“no, she is definitely simply actually considerate about when she decides to talk”
… and I perceive individuals who made the argument that being shy isn’t unhealthy (I agree, it isn’t at all times) however it’s OFTEN utilized in a unfavorable method (ask actually any introvert and they’re going to have so many examples of instances they’ve felt unhealthy when being referred to as shy…*I do know not all of them however you get what I’m saying..) I simply suppose it’s so pointless to position these labels on children earlier than they’ve even totally developed.. I imply so many children will naturally develop out of it and a few will work with their dad and mom to grasp it higher however both method it simply appears like one thing we needs to be extra considerate about how we are saying that and once we say it.
Individuals who act shy typically are very considerate and observant people who’ve loads of compassion. It’s truly such a cool trait and I feel there are loads of perks from being quiet. I’ve discovered so many perks to being quiet and compassionate within the work place too.
I used to lack confidence as a result of I knew I used to be quiet and likewise felt like I wasn’t sensible sufficient to be speaking to sure individuals. I at all times felt a bit foolish speaking to a CEO who graduated from Harvard .. having by no means graduated school myself. I had beforehand been given the recommendation “simply act assured and fake to know no matter they’re speaking about and you’ll find out after!” I discovered that to be horrible recommendation for myself .. I’d get WAY too deep in conversations I do know nothing about after which appear to be an fool. I began saying “oh I’m not conversant in that time period are you able to please clarify?” or just “I don’t know what you imply by that” and I discovered that the individuals I used to be speaking to additionally didn’t know issues that I KNEW. As soon as I stated I don’t know additionally they felt comfy saying it. I felt insecure not understanding their fancy enterprise phrases however I knew extra about influencers, advertising, hair, and constructing a neighborhood. These are the issues I thrive doing as a result of I LOVE doing them. I’m good at them and never everyone seems to be so I began to really feel assured understanding it’s okay to say “I don’t know” as a result of we aren’t all meant to know every little thing. I additionally suppose extra of somebody once they don’t fake to be a know all of it – as a result of that’s…annoying. Be fast to ask for clarification and allow them to see how a lot you like to pay attention and be taught. I used to be not too long ago speaking to this unbelievable girl who has been a CEO of a number of huge manufacturers.. I obtained so excited speaking to her and studying from her I obtained so within the zone asking questions. She stopped and advised me how a lot she cherished that I cherished to be taught and never fake to know every little thing. To her it was refreshing. It felt good to listen to that and I feel simply being YOU can be refreshing to individuals. And if anybody makes you’re feeling dumb for not understanding then actually don’t do enterprise with them anyway. I’ve zero time for doing enterprise with egotistical individuals who suppose they’re higher than others as a result of they’ve X title or X earnings or X degree of training… and if saying I don’t know is a fast and simple strategy to see somebody’s true colours than extra the explanation to say it.
It’s a journey to get to the purpose of actually understanding your self, studying your physique’s queues, and understanding your patterns… so don’t really feel defeated if that feels daunting. I’m at all times going to be engaged on it and don’t suppose anybody is each actually there in all facets of life. All of us will at all times have our strengths and weaknesses and that’s okay. Love you guys!!!!!!!!! xoxoxo
